THE BEAUTIFUL STRUGGLE
This post may seem slightly scatter brained, but it isn’t always easy to face certain things we have been through. I hope reading it will help you realize that our past does not dictate our future.
People see where I am now and they say… “Must be nice.”
But they don’t know what I have been through to get here. They also don’t know what I’m putting myself through right now to take my life to a whole new level.
My name is Steve Krebs. I was born in Rome Hospital at 7am, on April 20th 1979 to Richard and Janice Krebs. I have three siblings, Erica, Elizabeth, and Josh.
Growing up we didn’t have much, but it was always enough. I live in a rural area. I grew up a country boy, not exactly the first thing that comes to mind when you hear that I’m from New York. But I grew up in farm country.
I live in a suburb of Utica, NY, which was ranked one of the top ten worst places to own a business in the United States in 2011.
My father, Rick, owned his own Auto Body Shop and my mother, Janice, was a stay-at-home mom.
I learned my hustle from my parents. My dad would leave before I got up in the morning, and get home when it was dark outside. His work ethic is matched by no one I have ever met. His idea of fun is going out in the woods and cutting down trees. To him every activity/job is a competition, and he doesn’t like to lose. He owns and operates a body shop to this day; to him retirement would be worse than death. Inactivity is poison. He is a beast, and is half the reason I am who I am today.
My mother stayed at home with us and she is the best mom ever, but she hustled as well. She sold Avon. Sounds silly, but she beasted that shit. It is how she paid for our Christmas presents, activities, and more. I remember her cutting coupons, and being thrifty. Always putting her children before herself. She still does all of this today. Plus she worked as a teacher’s assistant for 20 years after we had grown. She just retired, and is now finding her next “activity.”
My family is my reason for being. They are all I need to motivate me. They are my WHY.
Like I said, when we were younger we didn’t have it all, but we had enough. As I got older, my father’s business started to grow. All of his hard work started to pay off, so we moved into a new house, and got more “stuff.” And the funny part is, this is when things started to fall apart.
My parents have been divorced for over ten years now. It wasn’t pretty. Things have just recently become better. No matter what age you are, that shit hurts. Experiencing a tumultuous relationship is difficult for all children. It forms our expectations of what a relationship should be like. I have struggled with relationships my whole life as a result of this.
My parents have always been supportive of me, but I know, at times, they doubted me. The doubt came from my past behavior. At one point I was in a bad place. I drank too much, and I only cared about myself. I didn’t work hard, I was lazy, and I really didn’t give a shit. I suffered from anxiety, depression, and I was overweight for a good portion of my life. My head was stuck way up my ass. At one point in high school I weighed 295 pounds. I had no belief in myself, and thought I had to become a cog in the wheel to survive.
I struggled…yet here I am.
My father put his business of 30+ years on the line to secure an SBA loan so I could open my gym. I don’t tell many people that. If it weren’t for him, I don’t know where I would be or what I would be doing. I will be forever grateful to both of my parents; they have made me what I am today, and what I will be in the future.
I opened the doors of my fitness business in 2007. In the first year I almost went out of business. My life was full of negative people (I had a girlfriend who was VERY bad for me), and it affected every aspect of my life. The minute I rid my life of negativity, my business took off.
My business has grown every year since I opened because I am not too proud to ask for help. I have been in almost every coaching/mastermind group in the industry. I read every day. I spend more money on education each year than most people will in a lifetime.
I surround myself with only positive people who take action and live the code.
Steel sharpens steel.
I met Luka in a mastermind group run by Pat Rigsby and Nick Berry. This dude is my brother from another mother, and we have had each other’s backs since day 1. We push each other to get better, and our businesses have tripled since we started pushing each other for more.
That is what the pack is…a brotherhood based on loyalty, respect, integrity, and hustle.
This wasn’t easy to put into words, hopefully it will inspire someone who is going through something similar to pull themselves from the depths and strive for greatness.